Originally Posted by
willferg
Maybe talk to her – say you'd like to make her a quilt but know that she has problems with her dog chewing things, and would she like one anyway or would she like you to wait a few years till the dog has outgrown (!) the problem? At least it's a heads up that if you give her one, you don't want to see it chewed, and if she doesn't want to be responsible for keeping the quilt safe, she can say so since you are giving her an out.
Maybe make the quilt, then ask her if she wants you to keep it for her until the dog outgrows his chewing habit. You could offer a tablerunner and placemats as a "placekeeper" while you hold onto the quilt. If she wants the quilt anyway, I would give it to her and just let go of what happens to it.
The advantage of making the quilt and keeping it for her is that she is reassured that her standing with you is equal to that of the other nieces; it's just her choice to have you store it for you until her house is ready for it.