My parents are raising their grand daughter as their own and have officially adopted her,they have had her since hse was 3 mons old and she is now 13,and my 17 yr old nephew is living with them also,he doesn't like his mothers' husband,or his step siblings.My dad does fine iwth it My mom has more of a problem,she didn't expect to spend her golden years raising more kids.There is an organization here in town specifically geared to grandparents raising grandkids