I am of the mind that when i give a quilt it is most important to me that the recipient actually uses the quilt...a few years ago we kind of got into this (making beach quilts) sold a few, people LOVED them, they were fun, summery with appliques and bigger than a big beach towel...on the 4th of july at the park i thought it was way cool to be walking along and see 5 of the quilts i had made spread out and being enjoyed by generations together...at one point though a person (a caring quilter who couldn't stand it) walked up to a family very proud of their quilt and was so incredibly RUDE it amazed me...she jumped all over these people and even threatened to take the quilt away from them!!!one of the kids ran and found me, i came on the run...
this woman was soooo indignant, and let me know how it's "People like me" who causes this type of 'mis-use'...
seriously...if you do not want the quilt you give to be used...make a wall hanging. the first quilt i hand quilted is a red and white embroidered quilt...my granddaughters consider it their PICNIC Quilt, and LOVE it...it is used and loved , isn't that why we do this. if you are going to make an heirloom that you do not want used, tell the recipient when you give it..."oh, yes, heres a gift for you, i spent hundreds of hours creating it for you but don't you dare use it...hide it, i have too much into it for you to really put it out, someone may sit on it...heaven forbid..."
sorry for the rant but .......................