our family buys for the kids under 12. we don't have much money so the older kids get made items; quilts or woodworked things. the adults all understand and hold to the "no gifts" agreement. usually the teens get gift cards from a few aunts "on the sly" haha. but, no exchanges. we figure-why bother. I spend $20.00 on you and you spend $20.00 on me. we don't bother. would rather have the money for our kids or a good family meal together or spend it on gas to visit the kids who live out of state.