I agree with the consensus... this is NOT an ugly quilt at all! But I think I see two things that might be bugging you. First: a previous poster thought the sashing was too wide for the blocks, and I think she might be right. The second issue, I think, is that the dark border is overwhelming the lovely pink blocks. It may be that another border of the darker pink will "finish" this and make you happier. I also suspect that the dark border needs to be narrower, so the pink will shine. Maybe narrow it up so that it and the light pink border together are as wide as the sashing, then add the final pink border. I think that would solve both problems. But really, it's a lovely quilt as it is.
As for the quilting... I'm not going to be any help at all. Sorry. But do show us what she looks like finished!