I tried following flylady for a while. While I don't do it religiously anymore, I think many of her ideas have stuck with me. When I'm feeling overwhelmed by clutter, I start by cleaning and shining my kitchen sink and clearing the counters around it. My DH comes home from work and an knows that something is up. The cleaning frenzy will go on for about a week or so, until everything is tidied up. We don't wear shoes in the house, but it does help to get dressed do my hair and makeup. I hate living with CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome). Also hate answering the door in my loungewear and no makeup.