My daughter did the flylady thing but all you need to do is make yourself a list of which things you want to do each day of the week or each week, or month or season. Keep that list posted someplace where you see it daily.
I clean for others and I don't mind that at all. The worst thing is 'picking up' and I have to do that for myself when I clean my home. ha
Here again I use for cleaning, soda, vinegar, Miracle II products. an old toothbrush is a handy tool when cleaning, also I sue another item when cleaning windows (not sure what to call it - used to clean out a baby's nose when they can't blow their nose - a suckion thing. I fill it with water and then flush in the corners of windows or corners of things)
Another thing for stains is "grandmas secret spot remover'. can get it at Hobby Lobby when they cut your material for you.