Maybe discuss laundering with your partner. Laundry soap and especially softener is something I am very sensitive too more so then cat dander or smoke. For my own quilts and donation quilts I launder in All Free hypoallergenic detergent and no softeners or any scents. Other people might really enjoy freshly laundered and scented. Last time I did a quilt in the for quilters swap I had to launder to get the marking lines out from quilting. I have another set up right now so do not anticipate needing to launder the finished quilt.