I am wondering when we are thinking of making a quilt for someone, should we contact them first? First asking if they would like a quilt. Then ask if they would like a more utilitorian quilt, to use, use, use... Or would they prefer a pretty "for show" quilt that will be gently loved/used? Or a pretty wall hanging, with a lot of detail work, that is purely for show. This might help eliminate hurt feelings on down the road...