This seems like a touchy subject in many aspects...
As a charity organizer it would be a big dilema. As a donator, I would like to be told if the quilt I offered was not appropriate for what it was intended for.
This is why when I donate, I donate directly. This helps me to confirm that it is going to where I want it to go to and that they know I did my best to offer them what they are needing.
There is no such thing as ugly. It is all in the eyes of the beholder. and If it keeps you warm it is called a "loved quilt".