Someone told me once to have a glass of wine. Never tried that but I know when I first started and even sometimes I freeze up and get anxiety. Then I discovered a long arm is easier--you don't push the quilt which is harder in my book. And sometimes I still have issues. I don't have a computerized long arm so when I do motifs, I often use the tissue paper that comes on a roll. It is messy tearing off but oh my, makes a beautiful motif. My advice is keep trying. Make lots of potholders and doggy beds. I still practice once in a while before I begin a quilt especially if I have issues with tension on the machine.