Two years ago my 33 year old niece was diagnosed with breast cancer. She had a double mastectomy, chemo, radiation, and hysterectomy. She lives in Kansas City and I live in Texas, so we are not near each other. I emailed her, offering to make a quilt, and sending her pictures of quilts I had made, asking her to select a pattern of one that she liked and asking what colors she wanted.
She was delighted. She wanted blue and yellow and flowers. She enjoyed selecting the pattern and giving me guidance in the fabric selection. She wanted a cheerful quilt. It has been one year since her breast enhancement....I think that is what it is called....including tatooed nipples! She is such an inspiration to us all.
My message is that maybe you could involve the lady in your plans. My niece told me that thinking about the quilt helped her a lot. I emailed pictures of the process all along the way. It was like she was right here, guiding me into creating the quilt she wanted.
Let me see if I can find a picture of it....in case it helps.
Dina