I tend to do minimal quilting because I think that makes the quilt drape better. I do a lot of SITD; and when I do FMQ I tend to leave lots of open space. I like to do FMQ vines (loopy lines with random leaf shapes) and I will do them in a big wide spiral starting in the middle of the quilt, and I like to leave space between lines of vines roughly equal to the width of the vine. So if my vines are coming out six inches wide, I'll leave a six inch gap between each row of vines. Assuming the batting accommodates that spacing, of course. Or I'll blend SITD with FMQ - do SITD around large block shapes with a small FMQ medallion-shaped whoozit in the middle of each block to make up the minimum quilting requirements for the batting.
I avoid buying batting that requires quilting closer than 6-8 inches.