I agree with Feline Fanatic's first comment about taking detailed pictures. You have sent her an email that was positive and kind. If there are any repercussions you have pics that can easily be shown and shared for further reference without dragging out the quilt, unless it is necessary, to back up your concerns. As you said it is a touchy situation with her being the leader of the group.
Her response will guide your next actions. If there is a poor outcome, I probably would find another group that would be more appreciative of your hard work. Since you are very unhappy with the quilting, I think your alternative is to rip it out. Perhaps a new group will appreciate your efforts, understand your dilemma and will help with the removal of the the quilting so you can move on.
Good luck - let us know
Last edited by costumegirl; 04-22-2014 at 11:37 AM.