when I work with students and they are concerned about any mistakes made to an item they are making as a gift, my comment is that the only words the recipient should say are Thank You. If they start inspecting or criticizing the gift - remove them from your gift list. There are so many, many folks out there who would be thrilled to receive an item you made for them. Concentrate on them! You can still have your big heart and kind soul, just not be pushed around.