I'm reading your post that you are making this as a gift, not to sell to the person. That being said, if it were me, I'd ask if she likes traditional or contemporary designs and her preferred colour scheme. No pictures, no specific fabric choices. If you show pictures, she will expect you to make the exact one she chooses -- which might be OK with you, or not. Same with colour swatches -- she'll expect you to use exactly what she chooses. Keep it simple by going with general guidelines. The other plus of this is the quilt ends up being a surprise.