Sounds like you have been analyzing this very thoroughly....
My story: in recent past....two couples, who were both family....were planning weddings and I "thought" of making wedding quilts...did not confer with either about idea, was going to wing it...anyway, life got in the way,,gave them both envelopes at weddings...my usual gift...and within 6 months of each "I DO", they were " I want out"......