When I did my daughter's, I had her walk around with a tray full of objects. That's all I said, she will be coming around with a tray full of objects. Pay close attention to her. Then, being pregnant, she put the tray down and said I have to pee and ran from the room. While she was gone I asked questions about her, not the objects on the tray like everyone thought I was going to. Everyone loved that one. Was her hair up or down? Was she wearing dress or pants? Heels or flats? Was her hair colored? Did she have makeup on? Things like that. PM me if you want the full list. Five years later we are planning the next one.