If I am making a quilt for one of my grandkids I let them take part in the planning of it. The last one I made my granddaughter for her 9th BD was a special request by her. She wanted an I spy quilt...."NO PINK!" in it. So I made it with everything she likes, sports, etc. It was tough making it girlie with no pink, but she was thrilled with it. I have taken them along to choose some of the fabric, and then work around it to make it something really special. I mostly make charity quilts that are given to tornado victims, etc. So those are just made with my love put into them. If a family member shows no interest in quilts, they will not be getting a quilt from me. I want them to appreciate it and all the love and work that went into it. Most people have no clue.