I don't belong to a guild but do have a small group I attend and have experienced some of the same problems. IMHO - you can give it another try and if nothing's changed, then bow out. If others are like-minded have you thought of starting up another guild? I have no idea of the process to do so...just throwing it out there. I know I do enjoy sharing my enjoyment in quilting/sewing with others folks of the same mind.