How frustrated you must feel....don't question yourself or you action anymore...if you truly feel this is not for them....for whatever reason.....give them a gift card or something "they" will be happy with and so will you in a long run.
Having said that, I am presuming you feel your work, effort, finished product, will be be completed appreciated? Been there and done that...my "quilting" gifts now go to others..."those" get gift cards as needed