Originally Posted by
Sandygirl
Congrats!!
My 2 cents. I have been in 10 weddings. I was the last to marry in my circle of friends. I had my wedding planned in 3 weeks then enjoyed the next months not worrying about a thing. I Kept the price down, had 150 guests and I enjoyed the day. I had a traditional church wedding and a public country club reception. You would be amazed at what I ended spending. It was very reasonable. It can be done with careful planning. If that is the goal. Your choice.
Keep it simple. Make a realistic budget. Who is paying for what? Don't get sucked in to "trends" . You don't need "party favors". IMHO. I personally hate "save the date" notices. Why waste the $$ and postage. Your friends and relatives will know the date once it is set. News travels. Start pricing then booking the reception place. They fill up early. Assuming the sky (money) is NOT The limit, sit down and talk about the plans, budget, and wish lists.
RESPECT the place of worship if they are going to marry in the church or synagogue, etc. (sic). Abide by the tradition of the sacred place of worship. I have dealt with bridezillas who wanted to use our church for their ceremony and disrespected the traditions and the clergy. Go get married in a park or hotel, etc if you are not going to follow the protocol. I could go on and on. But I won't. I assume that your couple is civilized and respectful.
There are great checklists in the bridal magazines and on wedding.com.
Enjoy the ride!
Sandy
Well Stated and very informative for the new couple and their families Sandy. I totally agree about the place of Worship, too often couples want to be married in a place of Worship, but many seldom attend one, and have no clue as to what the protocol of different religions are. A couple may have a very formal or informal, large or small wedding and the main thing that matters is that they will be entering into a Holy Matrimony, which is just what the words mean. That is the main purpose, not to break anyone's bank account, or belittle the vows to be taken. Please consider all parties involved, including the guest list when planning, especially whether formal or informal as some will want or need to purchase particular attire, that may or may not ever be used again, just for this wedding. I personally prefer informal weddings, and enjoy attending these over a formal wedding- it isn't the type that of wedding that matters, but the commitment the couple make to each other. DH and I had a small informal wedding, which is what we wanted, and all of our guests seemed to be comfortable and enjoy themselves- but that was 44 years ago the 22nd of this month, so maybe it will be a lasting commitment lol. Wishing the best to all involved and hoping the couple will have a long and happy marriage.