Thank you Quilter7x,.....my payforward will be her succeeding in the goals she had originally set for herself...a college degree, a home of her own......she is a very good person underneath all that hurt.....now I need to turn my hurt inoto helping those rejected children/young women/men (of course anonomously, because I get too passionate and too attached) who have no one! Not as a replacement but as a means of reminding them that life is good, and good people are a part of life! Thank you for your words of encouragement! You all are totally awesome.