We lost our cat, Amber - 12 yrs, this summer while we were away working out of town. Poor daughter, Mary - 21 yrs, had to bury the precious pet and didn't want to tell us over the phone. It was especially hard when we arrived home for all of us. We visited the flower bed with rocks shaped like a long tailed cat to mark the place. It has been since the 80's that we haven't had a calico about the place. Bless your heart, I know your struggle!