Hey Terri - just remember...this too shall pass!!!
As for the reading, learning, etc. I really believe each child has their own timetable! Some are ready to absorb at 3, some at 6...but every parent has to learn that on their own. No matter what we say or do...
How lucky you are to have those little babies...I wish you many happy times with them. So if you move to VA, how far will you be from them??