Hey Terri, i know and understand (((hugs))) Our daughter was single mom and living with us when she had Elisa. She had her own ideas for sure, and had to keep my silence so many times. Like she bought these baby education videos lol, uhmmm, baby watched them all of 3 times before Cathy realized, baby doesnt like these, and they are boring lol. So that didnt last long. My sister put her little girl in french immersion school last year for grade one, they only speak french, no english, and poor little morgan came home from school each day crying and stressed. So now she has her in regular public school this year, and she's doing much better. Oh yeah, and our daughter had the idea, once elisa was crawling and stuff, if she just babyproofed the place real good, baby could crawl around house, and cathy could go back to bed! Sorry, no home is baby proof enough for that. And of course, the newest craze, attachment parenting, having your baby sleep in your bed with you...yup, cathy did that, so she didnt have to get out of bed in middle of night to nurse elisa, well do you know how many times each night me and dan would go into her room, to check to see if elisa was ok, and hadnt rolled over with her nose in the soft mattress, because no bed mattress is as firm as a crib mattress. I don't know, i get it Terri, especially the snobism. I've gotten that from cathy too. If you don't say too much, then when something like edu videos doesnt work out, they dont have to deal with mom might say told you so LOL. I learned to just say, oh yeah, that sounds different, interesting idea. And of course, cathy was going to put elisa into some special artsy fartsy school, where they learn at their own pace lol, i just said, oh yeah, nice :) But cathy never did that either. They will talk a big talk, but not do everything they say. They're just excited, it's their first babies, and i think new parents go through that phase, that's all it is. I'm so glad you were there for the birth though, that is so special, and so glad everything went good. Hang in there hon...how long are yo there for?