Sewjoyce - it WAS rude of her to not thank you for the breast cancer quilt you made for her. But, as a breast cancer survivor, here's a little insight from my point of view, and it may be heres as well.
I don't need a daily reminder of my cancer. And I'm getting tired of people greeting me with 'How are you?' They mean well, but it's a reminder, too.
Most days, I'm able to get through the day without remembering the tough year I went through, and that's a GOOD thing. I still go to breast cancer support group meetings, and a lot of my BCSG buddies feel the same way.
While you're going through treatment, it's great to have people be supportive and ask how you feel, and, better yet, for them to jump in and do things for you. But when you're finished, and have regained your strength, you pretty much don't like to be reminded. - except when you go to your 3 month or 6 month or annual checks with your oncologist. It's ok for him to ask how you're feeling!