I have just read through this entire thread. My initial reaction was of horror over the incident, but as I read to the end in your last post, I had tears streaming down my cheeks. As you stated, a friendship could have been lost over a quilt, but instead it will be solidified over a new one.
You are a very gracious woman, and your perspective and attitude has been so refreshing. I hope that you two have a fantastic time together creating a new quilt, and your friendship becomes even stronger.