One year I gave each of my grown children and their spouses a quilt that I had made for them. Another year I made up photo albums for them filled with photos of us - their parents - from our wedding forward through to their pre-teen years. Last year, due to illness, I gave them each money and a small token gift - like a football team mug filled with candy. I don't discuss how many gifts, how much money or anything with them. If they ask me for ideas what we want, I give them a list of items at all price ranges and let the 3 of them work it out among themselves who buys what. I don't stress Christmas because I found out last year that life can interfere with the best made plans, i.e. breast cancer, and that just being with them is all the gift I need and want.