Originally Posted by
bearisgray
At one time I felt that way - but then I realized that if I don't know exactly what "they" might want - it would seem reasonable that "they" would not know exactly what I might want, either.
It makes about as much sense for a giver to know exactly what I might want or need when they aren't around me much - as it does for a waiter/waitress to know what to bring me for a meal if I don't tell them what I want.
Good point...never thought of it that way...except wait staff are total strangers, whereas this is family members whom I see, speak to, frequently......but I will remember your analogy.