We give money. Between kids, their spouses, their children, their spouses, and then the great grandkids, I don't like the shopping. Of course, to try and find the right thing and the right size, and then paying for postage we could buy even more. We send each family money, and if they want to shop for the kids okay. The great grandkids have found out its fun to rec. money because if they didn't get what they wanted they can wait for the sales. They all love it. As far as siblings we stopped that along time ago. We just wish everybody a Merry Christmas. Whatever works for you is what you should do.