A basic utility quilt can withstand a lot of abuse. (I should know coz I sure abuse mine.) A quilt can be such a personal gift and we want this gift to be appreciated. The only strings that should be attached to a quilt is "to love it to death." Whatever that means to the recipient.
If you suspect that the quilt will not be treated well or appreciated, get a Target gift card and use the quilt for a different occasion.