This explains a lot. There wasn't a flat surface in our house that was not covered with my husbands paper work. If I would start to complain it was met with 'have you seen your sewing room' - 2 facts he never seemed to register (1) I did not have visitors in there and (2) there was no need to do bookkeeping on what I made and spent at the end of the year. I did conquer the where to eat problem I bought TV trays that could be folded away safe from paper stacks.