I know it is difficult to give a quilt to someone who you believe will not appreciate it. It has to come from the heart, not the head. I make hundreds of charity quilts each year and with each one I try to say a prayer or thought of who might be the recipient as I am making it and that way I know I have my heart in the right place. That baby will be kept warm and snuggly even if the mother does not appreciate it. You will also have the joy of giving from your heart. Bless you for putting that little baby first.