I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter. I have a son who served twice in Afghanistan, and I was so afraid he would be killed. Thankfully, he came home physically whole, but mentally broken with PTSD from doing things he really didn't want to do. That was a few years ago, and he is much better today, although he is still in therapy.
Also, I am western NC, as well. I live in Buncombe County.