Since others have already said what I wanted to say - and probably better - I wasn't going to post a reply. But I worked my way all the down to General Chit-Chat and this thread was still poking at me.
I've called myself a slap-dash quilter, so I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum from you. Ask yourself if you are quilting to please your critics, or to please yourself and those you may give your quilts to. (Of course we all know that critics are those little insects that rub their legs together to make irritating sounds.)
Thank the woman who has helped you, and continue to listen to her advise, but make up your own mind what is important to you.
By the way, we all can find our quilts' imperfections in the dark, but who among us has ever made a perfect quilt?
Welcome to quilting and this board.
Tate