My mother passed away four years ago tomorrow. I was going to give away her things, and sell the things no one wanted. I lost a lot of sleep over what to do. So I decided to give my granddaughters first pick of whatever they wanted. Then I kept the rest, I still have it and I actually use the china every now and then and I wear her jewelry. These things always put a smile on my face and I seem to be happier when I'm using or wearing her things. I think it's because I feel she is with me still. So don't rush in and give away or sell her things. Take the time to grieve and then look at her things, put them away. A few months down the road, take them out and look again. That may help you decide what to keep.