Dwina, the old adage "when it rains, it pours" is applicable here, I think. You poor dear and your poor dear husband. I am praying fervently for you both. Prayers for healing, physical and for your hearts, too. What you have been through seems too much to be borne.
Hold fast to one another and take care of yourselves. We'll be here when you have the time and the energy to come by. I, too, wish I were close enough to do something meaningful for you.
Deb