Originally Posted by
SingerSewer
It is not our intention to be rude to her but we really would like to get the point across that she has to take care of herself and not expect others to stop and help her. Which ordinarily turns into doing most of it or helping her remove stitches.
You are going to have to be blunt and tell her exactly that, before you get to the retreat. Otherwise she will go with the same expectations she has at meetings-- that any and everyone is available to help her.
Just tell her. Don't let her behavior ruin it for others. Maybe she acts like this because it works for her. No one has corrected her so far, so she will continue.