We never have one person in charge -- just one who thinks she is in charge. Basically, at a retreat we just all do our own thing because we all brought projects we wanted to complete. This does not mean that we aren't willing to offer support and encouragement. We had one member who went on a retreat with us and we were playing cards one night and she told us that the retreat was the best vacation she had ever had. That was such a surprise to hear and made us all very happy. The last retreat we went on was about two years ago and there were only six of us and we all worked and played together. It was great.