Luvfabric (and don't we all!)
Reading about how you have worked out a way to keep your mother involved puts me in mind of Ami Simms. Do you know her? Her mother had Alzh. and Ami blogged extensively about her until her death recently. If you go to amisimms.com or AAQI.com you can read about her work raising awareness for Alzh and raising money to donate to studies of the awful disease.