Jane, I am so sorry about your loss. Life (and death) surely does throw us curves. Over time, we learn to lean into it and keep our balance. And, gather knowledge (as your reflections commented) to mold ourselves for the future. (Anticipating curves, "gathering rosebuds", as it were.)
I have been following this thread with interest. I'm making mine 4-1/2" cuts, my quilt will be 96x96. I'm also modifying it (when do I not do that, am constantly told "you over-think", "you make it harder than it is") to suit my needs. My needs are: I don't have enough (organized) scraps in three color families to make this quilt per directions. My primary color will be scrappy (purple), but my background and secondary color will be solid cloth.
So kick me out, or disallow my contribution if you wish (this is very very very tongue-in-cheek), but this challenge is being my inspiration for my project. I have a vision...