True, Brat... I do like your idea of not sending until you communicate with your partner and try to send around the same time. That personal contact can only help.
Sorry about the quilt swap. Hope your quilt was returned to you. Sometimes people have serious turmoil in their lives, such as domestic abuse or substance addictions, or serious illness. They may use quilting and the QB as an outlet but we just never know what may have come up in their lives that they had to disappear. I guess we can just be thankful that is not how our life is and let go of a minor swap we didn't get.