Oh my Linda, this can be a touchy subject. However, I think everyone has put forth real good points to ponder. Sometimes I can be very generous and sometimes I can't - no reflection on the swappie only on what I can personally do at the time. I think just stating the basic rules (as you always have done) should clear the slate - anything we receive as extras are just that and we shouldn't feel guilty that our package didn't contain anything more than what we could give from our heart.