I prefer honesty, I don't need someone to sugar coat anything. I value honesty in all forms, we are not perfect and for me, I learn far more from honest feedback than I do from politeness. Honesty allows me to grow as a person as well as a quilter, I still have much to learn on all fronts!! I too see lots of passive aggressive responses and I do not understand why one needs to be that way to a fellow quilter. I really do appreciate all the feedback and help I get here!!!