My main things, is learning to say no. But like all things there are many ways to do it. With quilts, especially that cousin who has not spoken to me since we were teenagers (50 years) I have learned to say "I will gladly add you to my list LOL, just be aware the list is long" (and ever changing LOL). After a year, she had the nerve to post on Facebook that she was still waiting, I just laughed.