I guess times have changed but there was never a baby shower after the first baby. I had a diaper pounding with my second given to me by my church. One friend had a frozen meal stock up for her third. LOL. So much more helpful then new onesies. My DD second baby, her friends wanted to give a shower. I suggested instead of baby gifts not needed, if guests wanted to give a gift bring a child's book. DD was thrilled.