Your friend had no idea what she was asking for in practical terms, and you also had no idea what you were agreeing to in practical terms, not knowing anything about hand quilting. Unless you turn out to be one of the rare people who takes to hand quilting naturally, it's going to take time to get your hand quilting up to the quality you'd want displayed on a gift. You might ask your friend what's more important to her -- having the quilt hand-quilted, or getting it while her baby is still a baby. Once she understands that the skill to hand quilt well is not something that normally can be developed in an afternoon, a machine quilted quilt might seem more attractive to her.