Originally Posted by JanetM
Originally Posted by amma
Maybe ask him again on the phone, then you can hear by the tone in his voice if he really wants one or not.
I do know a few people who would never use one...They prefer fleece or other softer feeling fabric, and if given a quilt it would sit in a closet or be given away....
Also ask yourself, if you did make him one and he never used it...how would you feel?
I did talk to him on the phone later and he brought the up the subject. I explained to him that I was thinking about making him a lap quilt that he could use when he reads, sitting in his favorite chair. His response "oh" and then he changed the subject.
When I told my sister about his note she too thought his note was a bit blunt. We talked about how if it seems that someone wouldn't appreciate your efforts, maybe it is best to not bother. Use your time where it will be appreciated.
I would never presume to make someone a quilt for their bed without knowing if they want one. It would seem presumptuous to dictate to them how to decorate their bedroom. So that is why I thought he might like a lap quilt.
His note and subsequent phone call really hurt my feelings so I am relunctant to make anything for him. My Dad tends to say what he means, and means what he says.
I was telling my friend (saleswoman) at my favorite sewing machine store. She too thought it was odd. A nice man (waiting for his vacuum cleaner) overheard us and said "I would love a quilt" He made my day.
I know exactly how you feel, I wanted to make a quilt for my mom and she said "what will I do with it?" (I think it's quite obvious what you are supposed to do with it!) The point is, it was a rejection that really hurt! I will not make her one especially if she won't appreciate it. The reason why her rejection hurt so much is that she is very talented at many things, like fashion sewing, smocking, painting etc. If anyone would know and appreciate the love and hard work that goes into a quilt it would be my mom.....but I guess she doesn't want to with my quilt for some reason.