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Old 05-11-2016, 01:01 PM
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zozee
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Originally Posted by Notwendy View Post
Glad to hear you're feeling more chipper (though still see the doc). Your list is great - but the final item is the best. That feeling of weight that lifts when we let something go that no longer gives us pleasure. I am trying to remove the word "should" from my vocabulary. i.e. I should finish it because ... Self-imposed obligation should take a flying leap!
"Should" is an instant motivation KILLER for me. Especially when used with any of my hobbies which "should" NOT be obligatory in any way. I don't like to hear what I should do from other people in that regard, either. Suggestions? Yes. Ideas? Certainly. If I ask, of course. Otherwise, I'm rather shrewd at detecting what I think is implied . I don't even want to be told I should finish something just because _______________ (I started it, I paid good money, it's pretty to them) etc. It makes me wither!
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